It’s Better to Obey Husband Than to Burn – Part 3 (Final Part)


Genesis 3:16 “Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and [thy desire] shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.”  

I know some people are going to say why am I revealing all of this? Why am I giving men all this power (Rom 1:16) over women in this series of “It’s Better to Obey Than to Burn”? Why didn’t I withhold this information “in righteousness” from the masses of men like Modern Preachers do? Why have I dared to teach that if a wife doesn’t obey her husband, she will not be forgiven by God for blaspheming the Holy Ghost (cf. Matt 12:31-32 with Titus 2:3-5), and that she will be thrown in the Lake of Fire for Idolatry (Rev 21:8)? I say why not! Women use the power of the Laws of the Land to rule over men, that men’s desire (their lively hood, income, freedom, seeing their children) will be unto them. And we have so many female appeasing preachers who use the Bible (i.e. I Tim 5:8) to cast men—who don’t “take care of their responsibilities”—into the Lake of Fire. So as preachers and these phony “Christian Women” who they appease, thought to do unto men—who don’t “take care of their responsibilities, in propagating that “disobedient husbands” are damned to be cast into the Lake of Fire. So, must the same thing be done unto these lying preachers and the disobedient wives they appease.

Deuteronomy 19:16-20 “If a false witness rise up against any man to testify against him that which is wrong; Then both the men, between whom the controversy is, shall stand before the LORD, before the priests and the judges, which shall be in those days; And the judges shall make diligent inquisition: and, behold, if the witness be a false witness, and hath testified falsely against his brother; Then shall ye do unto him, as he had thought to have done unto his brother: so shalt thou put the evil away from among you. And those which remain shall hear, and fear, and shall henceforth commit no more any such evil among you.

Again, I know some people are going to say that I should’ve kept certain things hidden and not teach the things in the prior parts in this series, just because there will be husbands out there who will abuse those facts, so being, wives will be ruled over by their husbands. For knowing that their desire—even their prayers and salvation—shall be according to how they obey and treat their husbands. DUH!

Genesis 3:16 Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.”

When you read the parable of the unforgiving servant, you will understand what Desire ultimately meant in Genesis 3:16 when God said to the woman “and thy desire shall to be to thy husband.”

In the parable of the unforgiving servant, the unforgiving servant didn’t forgive his fellow servant an amount that was much lower than the amount he was previously forgiving for by his Lord. So, the Lord of the unforgiving servant had punished him for not giving the same mercy to his fellow servant that he had received. But that isn’t the part of the parable we are focusing on for right now. What we are to pay attention to is that the Lord of the unforgiving servant took into account all his servants, and the Lord saw that the unforgiving servant had owe him much, and the Lord than judged that the unforgiving servant pay the high debt with all that he had, including his wife and his children being sold into slavery. But the unforgiving servant came to his Lord and worshipped him and ask for his Lord’s forgiveness from his Lord’s judgment against him. And the Lord of the unforgiving servant forgave him because the unforgiving servant “DESIREDST” his Lord.

Matthew 18:23-35 Therefore is the kingdom of heaven likened unto a certain king, which would take account of his servants. And when he had begun to reckon, one was brought unto him, which owed him ten thousand talents. But forasmuch as he had not to pay, his lord commanded him to be sold, and his wife, and children, and all that he had, and payment to be made. The servant therefore fell down, and worshipped him, saying, Lord, have patience with me, and I will pay thee all. Then the lord of that servant was moved with compassion, and loosed him, and forgave him the debt. But the same servant went out, and found one of his fellowservants, which owed him an hundred pence: and he laid hands on him, and took him by the throat, saying, Pay me that thou owest. And his fellowservant fell down at his feet, and besought him, saying, Have patience with me, and I will pay thee all. And he would not: but went and cast him into prison, till he should pay the debt. So when his fellowservants saw what was done, they were very sorry, and came and told unto their lord all that was done. Then his lord, after that he had called him, said unto him, O thou wicked servant, I forgave thee all that debt, because thou [desiredst] me: Shouldest not thou also have had compassion on thy fellowservant, even as I had pity on thee? And his lord was wroth, and delivered him to the tormentors, till he should pay all that was due unto him. So likewise shall my heavenly Father do also unto you, if ye from your hearts forgive not every one his brother their trespasses.

The parable of the unforgiving servant shows that when a subordinate like a wife “desires” her Lord who is her husband—as according to Genesis 3:16, means that the husband has the power of judgment to have his wife destroyed or make non-effect the judgment to have his wife destroyed. Hint—

Numbers 30:1, 3-8 And Moses spake unto the heads of the tribes concerning the children of Israel, saying, This is the thing which the LORD hath commanded. If a woman also vow a vow unto the LORD, and bind herself by a bond, being in her father’s house in her youth; And her father hear her vow, and her bond wherewith she hath bound her soul, and her father shall hold his peace at her; then all her vows shall stand, and every bond wherewith she hath bound her soul shall stand. But if her father disallow her in the day that he heareth; not any of her vows, or of her bonds wherewith she hath bound her soul, shall stand: and the LORD shall forgive her, because her father disallowed her. And if she had at all an husband, when she vowed, or uttered ought out of her lips, wherewith she bound her soul; And [her husband] heard it, and held his peace at her in the day that he heard it: then her vows shall stand, and her bonds wherewith she bound her soul shall stand. But if [her husband] disallowed her on the day that he heard it; then he shall make her vow which she vowed, and that which she uttered with her lips, wherewith she bound her soul, of none effect: and the LORD shall forgive her.”

As the scripture above indicates, God gave the husband the power of judgment over his wife to judge if she is going to be potentially destroyed or not by God for a vow that she makes. This power of judgment that a husband has over his wife accompanies the responsibility God gave a husband to take into account every action of his wife. As when the Lord—being offended by Sarah—came to Abraham about his wife Sarah laughing at God’s promise of Issac. The Lord put the responsibility on Abraham (not on himself) on how Sarah was going to be dealt with. Abraham appropriately just chided with Sarah for her unbelief.

Genesis 18:9-15 And they said unto him, Where is Sarah thy wife? And he said, Behold, in the tent. And he said, I will certainly return unto thee according to the time of life; and, lo, Sarah thy wife shall have a son. And Sarah heard it in the tent door, which was behind him. Now Abraham and Sarah were old and well stricken in age; and it ceased to be with Sarah after the manner of women. Therefore Sarah laughed within herself, saying, After I am waxed old shall I have pleasure, my lord being old also? And the LORD said unto Abraham, Wherefore did Sarah laugh, saying, Shall I of a surety bear a child, which am old? Is any thing too hard for the LORD? At the time appointed I will return unto thee, according to the time of life, and Sarah shall have a son. Then Sarah denied, saying, I laughed not; for she was afraid. And he (Abraham) said, Nay; but thou didst laugh.”

The point is, God came to Abraham to decide what was going to happen to Sarah for her actions. God didn’t do anything to Sarah himself, God put the responsibility on Abraham to decide how Sarah was going to be disciplined. God didn’t interfere with the chain of command that he set up. That God is not the head of the wife if you will, but the husband is the head of the wife.

It’s no different a scenario than an owner or CEO of a company coming to middle management or an immediate supervisor and letting them decide what the company should do to a recalcitrant employee. Since the middle management or immediate supervisor knows first-hand the recalcitrant employee’s actions. That’s how God handles the husband ruling over his wife. The wife’s “desire”—judgment of deciding what will or what will not happen to her—is unto her husband. Not necessarily a wife’s “desire” is unto God. For the husband knows his wife’s obedient or disobedient actions first-hand.

So, it’s really foolish for a disobedient wife to pray to or “desire” God to forgive her and not punish her for being recalcitrant against her husband. Her husband (not God necessarily) is really the one who has the power to decide what God is going to do unto her. Thus, the person a disobedient wife should be making up with FIRST is her husband. Before she even dare go pray to God.

Matthew 5:23-26 Therefore if thou bring thy gift to the altar, and there rememberest that thy brother (a superior or equal, not a subordinate—unless you abuse them) hath ought against thee; Leave there thy gift before the altar, and go thy way; first be reconciled to thy brother, and then come and offer thy gift. Agree with thine adversary quickly, whiles thou art in the way with him; lest at any time the adversary deliver thee to the judge, and the judge deliver thee to the officer, and thou be cast into prison. Verily I say unto thee, Thou shalt by no means come out thence, till thou hast paid the uttermost farthing.”

Again, the husband has his wife’s “desire” in his hands. His wife’s “desire” isn’t in God’s hands necessarily.

The husband like any other ruler must take into account (evaluate) his subordinate’s actions to his superior—which is Christ (I Corin 11:3). It’s profitable to the wife who her husband rules over, that her husband take her into account unto Christ in joy and not grief. For his grief will be unprofitable unto her.

Hebrews 13:17 Obey them that have the rule over you, and submit yourselves: for they watch for your souls (i.e. Num 30:6-9, the husband watch for the soul of his wife, that she won’t make a vow unto God that she isn’t able to keep), as they that must give account, that they may do it with joy, and not with grief: for that is unprofitable for you.”

A husband’s grief in taking into account a disobedient wife ultimately means grief as well for the disobedient wife. A wife’s eternal salvation or eternal damnation will be given to her by God based on her behavior of obedience or lack of obedience toward her husband. For one’s “desire” and one’s “salvation” is one in the same.

II Samuel 23:1, 5 “Now these be the last words of David. David the son of Jesse said, and the man who was raised up on high, the anointed of the God of Jacob, and the sweet psalmist of Israel, said, Although my house be not so with God; yet he hath made with me an everlasting covenant (Marriage), ordered in all things, and sure: for this is all [my salvation], and all [my desire], although he make it not to grow.”

The husband’s behavior of mercy toward his wife will be judge by God as well. But the husband’s “desire” (his salvation) however isn’t unto his wife, like the wife’s “desire” (her salvation) is unto her husband. The husband’s “desire” (his salvation) according to the chain of command is unto Christ his head and Lord, in whom the husband has to obey for his eternal salvation or disobey for his eternal damnation.

John 12:47-48 And if any man hear my words, and believe not, I judge him not: for I came not to judge the world, but to save the world. He that rejecteth me, and receiveth not my words, hath one that judgeth him: the word that I have spoken, the same shall judge him in the last day.”

I Corinthians 11:1-3 Be ye followers of me, even as I also am of Christ. Now I praise you, brethren, that ye remember me in all things, and keep the ordinances, as I delivered them to you. But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.”

II Corinthians 10:3-5 For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war after the flesh: (For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;) Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ.”

With all that’s been said in the first three parts of this series, I give women a word of advice, “choose your husbands wisely”! Don’t make the “wrong choice” (more on that in another post). As we just went over, a wife’s “desire” (salvation) is unto her husband. Therefore, it’s urgent that women choose a husband who is a good leader; a civil servant to his family; a man who is worthy to be followed and obeyed! Rather than them making the “wrong choice” and choosing a knucklehead for a husband. But, whether if he is a knucklehead or not, a wife is obligated unto God to obey him.  And when I say “obey,” I don’t mean as a slave, indentured servant, or for a wife to be walked all over by her husband. A wife’s opinion and presents does count, so a wife is to obey her husband as his assistant and as a satrap ruler herself under him.

A husband must show himself a man by keeping God’s commandments (I Kings 2:1-3) and being merciful unto his wife (I Peter 3:7). Likewise, a wife must show herself a woman (I Peter 3:1, 5-6) by keeping God’s commandments (Gen 3:16), in being obedient to her husband (I Corin 13:34).


This was the Doctrine of the Gathering of Israel


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