The Civil Servant Husband Part 4 (Final Part)

“If thou wilt be a servant unto this people this day… then they will be thy servants forever.”

Jesus was doing Peter and the Pharisee a favor when he was teaching them the virtue of serving the people who they were over and not being despots over them. Cause when you are a despot and don’t serve the people, eventually the people will not serve you. With an ample opportunity, the people will overthrow you, when they figure out a way to do it without costing them their life. But when you serve the people you are over, they will serve you perpetually without you even instructing them or commanding them to do so.

Remember Jesus demanded that his followers/disciples (male and female) serve him and he accepted their servile service, but at the same time he served them and delivered them from their sins by sacrificing himself on the cross. Two thousand years later we—the spiritual progeny of men and women who followed Jesus while he was on the earth—are still serving Jesus because he so valiantly served us long ago.

Civil service is a virtue and a skill that is learned by first doing and observing some form of servile service, it isn’t some innate knowledge that people are born with or something they can only be learned out of some political science book. Nor is it something that people innately have because they are of an affluent family. People’s hearts aren’t going to continually be toward a civil servant out of the respect of where or whom he came from. Their hearts are only going to continually be toward a civil servant if he looks after their best interest and work on their behalf (even if they initially disagree with him and he ruffle their feathers).

II Samuel 15:1-6 And it came to pass after this, that Absalom prepared him chariots and horses, and fifty men to run before him. And Absalom rose up early, and stood beside the way of the gate: and it was so, that when any man that had a controversy came to the king for judgment, then Absalom called unto him, and said, Of what city art thou? And he said, Thy servant is of one of the tribes of Israel. And Absalom said unto him, See, thy matters are good and right; but there is no man deputed of the king to hear thee. Absalom said moreover, Oh that I were made judge in the land, that every man which hath any suit or cause might come unto me, and I would do him justice! And it was so, that when any man came nigh to him to do him obeisance, he put forth his hand, and took him, and kissed him. And on this manner did Absalom to all Israel that came to the king for judgment: so Absalom stole the hearts of the men of Israel.”

Rehoboam made the mistake and thought that by him being Solomon’s son and the third king in the Davidic dynasty was going to secure his kingship over the ten northern tribes of Israel. He made the mistake of thinking that “birth” equals “power.” He also didn’t realize that his father Solomon in the latter years of his reign was starting to serve himself and not the people by taxing them grievously. For Rehoboam to remain king over all twelve tribes of Israel he had to serve them and not himself, unlike his father did in the latter years of his reign.

I Kings 12:1-5 “And Rehoboam went to Shechem: for all Israel were come to Shechem to make him king. And it came to pass, when Jeroboam the son of Nebat, who was yet in Egypt, heard of it, (for he was fled from the presence of king Solomon, and Jeroboam dwelt in Egypt;) That they sent and called him. And Jeroboam and all the congregation of Israel came, and spake unto Rehoboam, saying, Thy father made our yoke grievous: now therefore make thou the [grievous service] (being a despot) of thy father, and his heavy yoke which he put upon us, lighter, and we will serve thee. And he said unto them, Depart yet for three days, then come again to me. And the people departed.”

Rehoboam had elder advisers who saw how good Solomon served the people in his earlier years as King and contrast that with the grievous service that Solomon did to the people in his latter years as King, and then gave Rehoboam the best advice I have ever read in anything far as admonishing someone in leadership.

I Kings 12:6-7 And king Rehoboam consulted with the old men, [that stood before Solomon] his father while he yet lived, and said, How do ye advise that I may answer this people? And they spake unto him, saying, If thou wilt [be a servant] unto this people this day, and wilt serve them, and answer them, and speak good words to them, [then they will be thy servants] for ever.”

This advice above that these old men gave Rehoboam was very wise, most likely they picked up such wisdom by standing before Solomon in his hey-day.

I Kings 10:1, 6-8 And when the queen of Sheba heard of the fame of Solomon concerning the name of the LORD, she came to prove him with hard questions. And she said to the king, It was a true report that I heard in mine own land of thy acts and of thy wisdom. Howbeit I believed not the words, until I came, and mine eyes had seen it: and, behold, the half was not told me: thy wisdom and prosperity exceedeth the fame which I heard. Happy are thy men, happy are these thy servants, which stand continually before thee, and that hear thy wisdom.”

But Rehoboam was pompous, full of ego, and he clearly had ambitions to make a great legacy for himself that was out of his father’s shadow. So, he leaned toward the foolish and unlearned advice, in the skill of leadership, of young men he grew up with, who stood before him, instead of being humble and diplomatic and leaning toward the advice of the wise old men who stood before Solomon.

I Kings 12:8-11 “But he forsook the counsel of the old men, which they had given him, and consulted with the young men that were grown up with him, and which stood before him: And he said unto them, What counsel give ye that we may answer this people, who have spoken to me, saying, Make the yoke which thy father did put upon us lighter? And the young men that were grown up with him spake unto him, saying, Thus shalt thou speak unto this people that spake unto thee, saying, Thy father made our yoke heavy, but make thou it lighter unto us; thus shalt thou say unto them, My little finger shall be thicker than my father’s loins. And now whereas my father did lade you with a heavy yoke, I will add to your yoke: my father hath chastised you with whips, but I will chastise you with scorpions.”

Because of Rehoboam’s ego, ambition, and choice to serve himself and “lobbyist” instead of serving the common people he was over, he lost the majority of his kingdom to his father’s servant Jeroboam. All because he didn’t listen to his father’s servants—how ironic is that.

I Kings 12:12-20 So Jeroboam and all the people came to Rehoboam the third day, as the king had appointed, saying, Come to me again the third day. And the king answered the people roughly, and forsook the old men’s counsel that they gave him; And spake to them after the counsel of the young men, saying, My father made your yoke heavy, and I will add to your yoke: my father also chastised you with whips, but I will chastise you with scorpions. Wherefore the king hearkened not unto the people; for the cause was from the LORD, that he might perform his saying, which the LORD spake by Ahijah the Shilonite unto Jeroboam the son of Nebat. So when all Israel saw that the king [hearkened not] unto them, the people answered the king, saying, What portion have we in David? neither have we inheritance in the son of Jesse: to your tents, O Israel: now see to thine own house, David. So Israel departed unto their tents. But as for the children of Israel which dwelt in the cities of Judah, Rehoboam reigned over them. Then king Rehoboam sent Adoram, who was over the tribute; and all Israel stoned him with stones, that he died. Therefore king Rehoboam made speed to get him up to his chariot, to flee to Jerusalem. So Israel rebelled against the house of David unto this day. And it came to pass, when all Israel heard that [Jeroboam] was come again, that they sent and called him unto the congregation, and made him king over all Israel: there was none that followed the house of David, but the tribe of Judah only.”                                                                                                               

II Kings 11:28 And the man Jeroboam was a mighty man of valour: and Solomon seeing the young man that he was industrious, he made him ruler over all the charge of the house of Joseph.”

What happen to Rehoboam in serving himself and “lobbyist” is what happens to any public official (whether secular or ecclesiastical) that don’t serve the common people who they are over, but rather they oppress them grievously or used them to make themselves rich. Such officials will lose their position and their substance. All will be taken away by God from them, who is the authority over all authorities, because they didn’t serve the people that God placed them over, instead they served themselves.

Ezekiel 34:1-2, 7-10 And the word of the LORD came unto me, saying, Son of man, prophesy against the shepherds of Israel, prophesy, and say unto them, Thus saith the Lord GOD unto the shepherds; Woe be to the shepherds of Israel [that do feed themselves]! should not the shepherds feed the flocks? Therefore, ye shepherds, hear the word of the LORD; As I live, saith the Lord GOD, surely because my flock became a prey, and my flock became meat to every beast of the field, because there was no shepherd, neither did my shepherds search for my flock, but the shepherds fed themselves, and fed not my flock; Therefore, O ye shepherds, hear the word of the LORD; Thus saith the Lord GOD; Behold, I am against the shepherds; and I will require my flock at their hand, and cause them to cease from feeding the flock; neither shall the shepherds feed themselves any more; for I will deliver my flock from their mouth, that they may not be meat for them.”                                                                   

Ecclesiastes 5:8 “If thou seest the oppression of the poor, and violent perverting of judgment and justice in a province, marvel not at the matter: for he that is higher than the highest regardeth; and there be higher than they.”

Daniel 2:20-21 Daniel answered and said, Blessed be the name of God for ever and ever: for wisdom and might are his: And he changeth the times and the seasons: he removeth kings, and setteth up kings: he giveth wisdom unto the wise, and knowledge to them that know understanding.”

Again, the head over people supposed to serve the people as a civil servant not oppressed them as a despot like Rehoboam propose to do. As the old wise men that stood before Solomon said “If thou wilt be a servant unto this people this day… then they will be thy servants for ever”—I Kings 12:7.

The old wise men weren’t advising Rehoboam to serve the people in the capacity of a servile servant. Cause how could Rehoboam “serve” the people while at the same time the people would “serve” Rehoboam forever as the old wise men said to him? If both the people and Rehoboam were servile servants to each other, you wouldn’t know the difference between the King and the subjects. It would be nothing but envy, strife, and schisms between them because they all would be jocking for position to rule over the other. Just like what goes on in the West between men and women jocking for position to rule over the other, with undefined gender roles and an undefined head of the household.

The old wise men in their wisdom were advising Rehoboam to serve the people as a civil servant and thus they will serve him as servile servants forever. Following the old wise men advice to Rehoboam, my advice to men is to serve their wife and children as civil servants, and so shall they be your servile servants forever. Also, my advice to women is to serve their husbands as servile servants and their children as civil servants, and so shall each be your servants in their allotted capacities forever. If you serve your spouse and your children in your allotted capacity and they don’t serve you back in their allotted capacity, then you judge against the vanity (Eccl 8:14) and stop serving them until they get their act together. Or put them away for good if they never get their act together

The old wise men not only told Rehoboam to be a civil servant, but they also told him how to do it, by answering the people and speaking good words unto them.

I Kings 12:7 And they spake unto him, saying, If thou wilt be a servant unto this people this day, and wilt serve them, and answer them, and speak good words to them, then they will be thy servants for ever.”                                                                                                                              

These good words shouldn’t be seducing words and platitude words that are Lies and Hypocrisy. The good words that the old wise men were talking about were supportive, encouraging, and edifying words. While “to answer them” plainly means to communicate and cooperate with the people rather than to ignore them and be emotionally aloof from them.

Jesus, mankind’s civil servant, speaks to us in good words. Even the Gospel, which can be short for “the Gospel of Jesus Christ,” means good news! You can’t get nothing but “good words” (supportive, encouraging, edifying) from good news.

I Timothy 6:3-4 If any man teach otherwise, and consent not [to wholesome words], even the words of our Lord Jesus Christ, and to the doctrine which is according to godliness; He is proud, knowing nothing, but doting about questions and strifes of words, whereof cometh envy, strife, railings, evil surmisings.”

Also, Jesus as mankind’s civil servant “answers” (cooperate with, communicate with) all those servile servants who obey his commandments by answering their prayers (if it is the father’s will) and he comfort us with the Holy Ghost (angel in this instance) who will teach us all things, and lead and guide us into all truth. That we may be at peace from worrying and be a peace from being afraid of what will happen to us in our lives.

John 14:13-18, 26-27 “And whatsoever ye shall ask in my name, that will I do (in other words he will “answer” us instead of ignore us), that the Father may be glorified in the Son. If ye shall ask any thing in my name, I will do it. If ye love me, keep my commandments (but we must keep his commandments and serve him as servile servants for him to “answer” us). And I will pray the Father, and he shall give you another Comforter, that he may abide with you for ever; Even the Spirit of truth; whom the world cannot receive, because it seeth him not, neither knoweth him: but ye know him; for he dwelleth with you, and shall be in you. I will not leave you comfortless: I will come to you. But the Comforter, which is the Holy Ghost, whom the Father will send in my name, he shall teach you all things, and bring all things to your remembrance, whatsoever I have said unto you. [Peace] I leave with you, my [peace] I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.”                                   

John 16:12-15 I have yet many things to say unto you, but ye cannot bear them now. Howbeit when he, the Spirit of truth, is come, he will guide you into all truth: for he shall not speak of himself; but whatsoever he shall hear, that shall he speak: and he will show you things to come. He shall glorify me: for he shall receive of mine, and shall show it unto you. All things that the Father hath are mine: therefore said I, that he shall take of mine, and shall show it unto you.”

Looking at Jesus the civil servant will be a good example for all other civil servants to follow, in providing “good words” (not slanderous and abusive words) and “answering” (not oppressing or using for money for their own self) the servile servants who are under them. So that the servile servants will be at peace and free from worry and fear of what will happen to them as pertaining to carnal things in their life. Knowing that you (their civil servant) are handling things on their behalf and always looking out for their best interest.

On the flip side, the servile servant also must speak “good words” (not slanderous and abusive words) and “answer” their superior (not clamor with him) when he is trying to communicate with them. The good words are still supportive, encouraging, and edifying words but now toward the superior.  For these good words the servile servant will be blessed by that superior for their support of him and the superior will serve the servile servant forever.

Malachi 3:16-17 Then they that feared the LORD spake often one to another: and the LORD hearkened, and heard it, and a book of remembrance was written before him for them that feared the LORD, and that thought upon his name. And they shall be mine, saith the LORD of hosts, in that day when I make up my jewels; and I will spare them, as a man spareth his own son that serveth him.”                                                   

Job 2:9-10 Then said his wife unto him, Dost thou still retain thine integrity? curse God, and die. But he said unto her, Thou speakest as one of the foolish women speaketh. What? shall we receive good at the hand of God, and shall we not receive evil? In all this did not Job sin with his lips.”                                                               

Job 42:7-12 And it was so, that after the LORD had spoken these words unto Job, the LORD said to Eliphaz the Temanite, My wrath is kindled against thee, and against thy two friends: for ye have not spoken of me the thing that is right, as [my servant] Job hath. Therefore take unto you now seven bullocks and seven rams, and go to my servant Job, and offer up for yourselves a burnt offering; and my servant Job shall pray for you: for him will I accept: lest I deal with you after your folly, in that ye have not spoken of me the thing which is right, like [my servant] Job. So Eliphaz the Temanite and Bildad the Shuhite and Zophar the Naamathite went, and did according as the LORD commanded them: the LORD also accepted Job. And the LORD turned the captivity of Job, when he prayed for his friends: also the LORD gave Job twice as much as he had before. Then came there unto him all his brethren, and all his sisters, and all they that had been of his acquaintance before, and did eat bread with him in his house: and they bemoaned him, and comforted him over all the evil that the LORD had brought upon him: every man also gave him a piece of money, and every one an earring of gold. So the LORD blessed the latter end of Job more than his beginning: for he had fourteen thousand sheep, and six thousand camels, and a thousand yoke of oxen, and a thousand she asses.”

Bad words (slanderous and abusive words) spoken against the superior by the subordinate(s)—unwarrantedly—will extremely offend the superior and possibly get the subordinate cut off for good by the superior.

Leviticus 24:10-16 And the son of an Israelitish woman, whose father was an Egyptian, went out among the children of Israel: and this son of the Israelitish woman and a man of Israel strove together in the camp; And the Israelitish woman’s son blasphemed the name of the Lord, [and cursed]. And they brought him unto Moses: (and his mother’s name was Shelomith, the daughter of Dibri, of the tribe of Dan:) And they put him in ward, that the mind of the LORD might be showed them. And the LORD spake unto Moses, saying, Bring forth him that hath cursed without the camp; and let all that heard him lay their hands upon his head, and let all the congregation stone him. And thou shalt speak unto the children of Israel, saying, Whosoever curseth his God shall bear his sin. And he that blasphemeth the name of the LORD, he shall surely be put to death, and all the congregation shall certainly stone him: as well the stranger, as he that is born in the land, when he blasphemeth the name of the Lord, shall be put to death.”

Isaiah 8:21-22 And they shall pass through it, hardly bestead and hungry: and it shall come to pass, that when they shall be hungry, they shall fret themselves, and curse their king and their God, and look upward. And they shall look unto the earth; and behold trouble and darkness, dimness of anguish; and they shall be driven to darkness.”

Malachi 2:17 Ye have wearied the LORD with your words. Yet ye say, Wherein have we wearied him? When ye say, Every one that doeth evil is good in the sight of the LORD, and he delighteth in them; or, Where is the God of judgment.”

Malachi 3:13-15 Your words have been stout against me, saith the LORD. Yet ye say, What have we spoken so much against thee? Ye have said, It is vain to serve God: and what profit is it that we have kept his ordinance, and that we have walked mournfully before the LORD of hosts? And now we call the proud happy; yea, they that work wickedness are set up; yea, they that tempt God are even delivered.”

As also the case of the superior who speak “bad words” (slanderous and abusive words) against their subordinate(s), the superior will be cut off for good by the subordinate(s). As we saw with the ten northern tribes of Israel who cut off Rehoboam from being there King for such [bad words] as “My father made your yoke heavy, and I will add to your yoke: my father also chastised you with whips, but I will chastise you with scorpions,”—I Kings 12:14. Since Rehoboam “answered” the people with the wrong choice of words, the people reciprocated and “answered” with words that he didn’t like.

I Kings 12:17, 19 So when all Israel saw that the king hearkened not unto them, [the people answered the king], saying, What portion have we in David? neither have we inheritance in the son of Jesse: to your tents, O Israel: now see to thine own house, David. So Israel departed unto their tents. So Israel rebelled against the house of David unto this day.”

Both the superior and the subordinate(s) are required to have the utmost respect for each other (not contempt).

When Rehoboam (and his friends indirectly) addressed the people, he insulted them and spake “bad words” (slanderous, insulting) toward them as if he and his friends felt threatened and insecure. What Rehoboam and his friends were threatened and insecure about was living up to the great legacies and administrations of Solomon and David, Rehoboam’s father and grandfather respectively. Rehoboam and his administration were so worried about living up to Solomon’s and David’s legacy that they projected this fear onto the people with them going overboard of showing their dominance over the people.

Leaders can’t be fearful, they must be fearless, so that their subordinates might project their desires unto them and be at peace. In their subordinates removing their fear of what is going to happen in their carnal lives because they are confident in their leaders (because he is confident in himself), who will serve them as civil servants because they love the people.

I John 4:18 There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.”                                             

Lest the leaders project a repressed feeling of incompetence and oppress the people they are over because they consciously or subconsciously feel that someone (possibly among the people who they are over) is more competent to be in the high position they are in. Or they are trying to fill the big shoes of powerful and popular men who were before them. Thus, they keep the people in fear, so the people will inevitably choose another leader who will take away the people’s own fear out of them by love (civil service).

An abusive and oppressive leader is an extreme which shows that the leader really feels inapt for the position that he or she holds. The other extreme which shows the leader really feels inapt for the position that he or she holds is them being too agreeable and dependent on their subordinates’ approval. This is what “gentlemen” are to their women. Many “gentlemen” feel inapt juxtapose to “angelic” women, so they follow the woman’s lead and directives when they supposed to be the man and the leader in the relationship. Being such a “gentleman” is displaying fear. The “gentleman” is actually afraid that his subordinate (woman) is more apt a leader than he is. A good male leader can’t have such a fear of an “angelic” woman dominating him. A good male leader must be fearless and balance between serving and leading, not serving and appeasing, so that his woman may remove her fear of male authority and project her desires unto him (Gen 3:16). Knowing that her man is always working on her behalf and looking after her best interest.

Also keep in mind that a servile servant must “answer” (cooperate with, communicate with) there superior at all times. The Lord required his servile servants to be always ready to hear him and not harden their heart when he is speaking to them or trying to get their attention. If they hear him (or answer him), he will abode with them forever as a friend and a civil servant.

Luke 12:36-37 And ye yourselves like unto men that wait for their lord, when he will return from the wedding; that when he cometh and knocketh, they may open unto him immediately. Blessed are those servants, whom the lord when he cometh shall find watching: verily I say unto you, that he shall gird himself, and make them to sit down to meat, and will come forth and [serve them].”                                                                                                        

Revelation 3:20 “Behold, I stand at the door, and knock: if any man hear my voice, and open the door (open the door of his mind and “answer” the Lord), I will come in to him, and will sup with him, and he with me.”

Hebrews 3:7-12 Wherefore as the Holy Ghost saith, To day if ye will hear his voice, Harden not your hearts, as in the provocation, in the day of temptation in the wilderness: When your fathers tempted me, proved me, and saw my works forty years. Wherefore I was grieved with that generation, and said, They do alway err in their heart; and they have not known my ways. So I sware in my wrath, They shall not enter into my rest. Take heed, brethren, lest there be in any of you an evil heart of unbelief, in departing from the living God.”

If there are any servile servants who are stubborn and refuse to “answer” the Lord, the Lord will see to it that those servile servants go into calamity because they didn’t “answer” (communicate back) with the Lord, when the Lord was trying to communicate with him or her. In their calamity, they will try to communicate with the Lord but the Lord will be stubborn and refuse to answer-communicate with them (as they were before with the Lord).

Proverbs 1:24-33 Because I have called, and ye refused; I have stretched out my hand, and no man regarded; But ye have set at nought all my counsel, and would none of my reproof: I also will laugh at your calamity; I will mock when your fear cometh; When your fear cometh as desolation, and your destruction cometh as a whirlwind; when distress and anguish cometh upon you. Then shall they call upon me, but I will not answer; they shall seek me early, but they shall not find me: For that they hated knowledge, and did not choose the fear of the LORD: They would none of my counsel: they despised all my reproof. Therefore shall they eat of the fruit of their own way, and be filled with their own devices. For the turning away of the simple shall slay them, and the prosperity of fools shall destroy them. But whoso hearkeneth unto me (answer me) shall dwell safely, and shall be quiet from fear of evil.”

Understanding all you have learned in this post, you can conclude that a good grounded relationship between a man and his wife or between a superior and his subordinate is when both parties speak good words (supportive, encouraging, edifying) to each other, and answer (cooperate with, communicate with) each other. Then, shall both parties be happy with one another, and so shall both parties serve and love one another forever in there allocated capacities. The allocated capacity is for the husband or superior to serve their subordinate as a civil servant. While the wife or subordinate is to serve their superior as a servile servant.


This was the Doctrine of the Gathering of Israel


Jehoiada Israel