You must be specific when you read honor in the Bible. Because it could mean one of two different things, since it’s clearly two different forms of honor in the Bible. The first form of Honor is mercy (or appreciation) to a subordinate. Like mercy going from God unto man, parents unto children, husband unto wife, teacher unto student, employer unto employee and able person unto disabled person. The second form of Honor is respect for a superior. Like respect from man unto God, children unto parents, wife unto husband, student unto teacher, employee unto employer. That’s why if any man is going to be a “gentleman” to a woman but still remain A KING (strong leader), and not destroy himself (emasculate himself) in the process as King Lemuel’s mother taught him in Proverbs the 31st chapter, than he must ONLY give this honor in the form of respect to his mother (an abusive mother you just avoid her, that’s the respect you give her): For God commanded that all children shall honor (respect) their mother, along with their father of-course.
Exodus 20:12 “Honour (respect) thy father and [thy mother]: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.”
Leviticus 19:3 “Ye shall fear (respect) every man [his mother], and his father, and keep my sabbaths: I am the LORD your God.”
Ephesians 6:1-3 “Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour (respect) thy father [and mother]; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.”
Solomon, a great king, showed honor in the form of respect to his mother by being a “gentleman” unto her. In accordance to what western society now thinks of as being a “gentleman.”
I Kings 2:19-20 “Bathsheba therefore went unto king Solomon, to speak unto him for Adonijah. And the king rose up to meet her, and bowed himself unto her, and sat down on his throne, and caused a seat to be set for the[king’s mother]; and she sat on his right hand. Then she said, I desire one small petition of thee; I pray thee, say me not nay. And the king said unto her, Ask on, my mother: for I will not say thee nay.”
But Solomon, the great king, destroyed himself (emasculated himself) when he showed honor in the form of respect to all his strange wives (as if they were his mother), according to the sound doctrine of King Lemuel’s mother.
Proverbs 31:1-3 “The words of king Lemuel, the prophecy that his mother taught him. What, my son? and what, the son of my womb? and what, the son of my vows? Give not thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings.”
I Kings 11:1-11 “But king Solomon loved (or “respected”) many strange women, together with the daughter of Pharaoh, women of the Moabites, Ammonites, Edomites, Zidonians, and Hittites: Of the nations concerning which the LORD said unto the children of Israel, Ye shall not go in to them, neither shall they come in unto you: for surely they will turn away your heart after their gods: Solomon clave unto these in love (also in respect). And he had seven hundred wives, princesses, and three hundred concubines: and his wives turned away his heart. For it came to pass, when Solomon was old, that his wives turned away his heart after other gods: and his heart was not perfect with the LORD his God, as was the heart of David his father. For Solomon went after Ashtoreth the goddess of the Zidonians, and after Milcom the abomination of the Ammonites. And Solomon did evil in the sight of the LORD, and went not fully after the LORD, as did David his father. Then did Solomon build an high place for Chemosh, the abomination of Moab, in the hill that is before Jerusalem, and for Molech, the abomination of the children of Ammon. And likewise did he for all his strange wives, which burnt incense and sacrificed unto their gods. And the LORD was angry with Solomon, because his heart was turned from the LORD God of Israel (Solomon RESPECTED these strange woman wishes more than he did the Lord’s), which had appeared unto him twice, And had commanded him concerning this thing, that he should not go after other gods: but he kept not that which the LORD commanded. Wherefore the LORD said unto Solomon, Forasmuch as this is done of thee, and thou hast not kept my covenant and my statutes, which I have commanded thee, I will surely rend the kingdom from thee, and will give it to thy servant (Solomon destroyed himself from giving up his strength [manhood] unto these strange women by not following the commandment of the Lord as David his father taught him—I Kings 2:1-3).”
The single mothers who teach their sons to be “gentlemen” and give honor (respect) to all women, like their sons ought to be “gentlemen” to them and give honor (respect) to them, are causing their sons to leave one mother (their biological mother) for another one (a domineering woman): Ultimately, they turn their sons into a man child with that “gentlemen” doctrine that they teach them.
Men giving honor in the form of respect—as a subordinate—to some woman other than their mother or female guardian (when they are young males, not adult males), boss, or secular authority is foolish.
Since most men in western society have put women on such high pedestals and subsequently devalue their own selves, it has become difficult for men in general to obtain the God ordain respect they are entitled to get from women.
Constant pampering of the servant (women) as if they are the head (men) has caused the servant to expect the same God giving rights (respect) that is naturally entitled to their head.
Proverbs 29:21 “He that delicately bringeth up his servant from a child shall have him become his son at the length.”
The God giving respect naturally entitled to men from women but now in western society is giving to women from men manifest itself on who gets “the glory of parenthood.” Men constant pampering of women—being “gentlemen” unto them—has caused a paradigm shift where mothers are generally venerated while fathers are generally marginalized. The most glory and the most honor of parenthood belongs to the father, not the mother, because the father is the origin of life (literally and figuratively).
Proverbs 17:6 “Children’s children are the crown of old men; and [the glory] of children are their fathers (not their mothers).”
But again, the pampering of women by men in western society has taken the natural glory of parenthood which belongs to the father and has now transferred it to the mother. So many fathers in western society have stabbed themselves in the back when they devalue themselves as men in general in giving all this unwarranted respect to women just for being women or mothers. Thus, they are disrespected by the mother of their children and the Laws of the Land while having no profound decision making in the rearing of their own children.
The General Barak didn’t value himself as a leader to lead ten thousand men by himself in an important battle that God ordained for him to lead certain tribes of Israel in. Barak didn’t want to go to battle without an affluent woman by his side. Although the affluent woman (Deborah) was an extraordinary woman, nonetheless Barak was a man, and the general of a huge army, so he shouldn’t have given all this unwarranted respect unto Deborah who wasn’t a military strategist, she was a prophetess and secular authority.
What was Deborah going to do for Barak? And how was her presence going to matter to the army if she wasn’t a military strategist? Therefore, God made it so that Barak will not get the glory and honor of the military victory in which God apparently had planned to give to Barak. Instead, God gave the glory and honor of the military victory unto a woman (who wasn’t Deborah) since Barak didn’t trust and value himself, and was afraid to keep the commandment of the Lord to lead an army of ten thousand men by himself. But he needed a woman along his side to lead the army.
Judges 4:4-9 “And Deborah, a prophetess (not general), the wife of Lapidoth, she judged (secular authority) Israel at that time. And she dwelt under the palm tree of Deborah between Ramah and Bethel in mount Ephraim: and the children of Israel came up to her for judgment. And she sent and called Barak the son of Abinoam out of Kedeshnaphtali, and said unto him, Hath not the LORD God of Israel commanded, saying, Go and draw toward mount Tabor, and take with thee ten thousand men of the children of Naphtali and of the children of Zebulun? And I will draw unto thee to the river Kishon Sisera, the captain of Jabin’s army, with his chariots and his multitude; and I will deliver him into thine hand. And Barak said unto her, If thou wilt go with me, then I will go: but if thou wilt not go with me, then I will not go. And she said, I will surely go with thee: notwithstanding the journey that thou takest [shall not be for thine honour]; for the LORD shall sell Sisera into the hand of [a woman]. And Deborah arose, and went with Barak to Kedesh.”
The above scenario with Deborah and Barak is a micro allegory for what is going on in the present day macro of western society. Where men are giving unwarranted honor (respect) unto woman-mothers who aren’t God ordained to receive such honor, nor are they generally skilled and competent strategist in leading a household, providing sustenance, providing knowledge, providing instructions, providing physical protection, and providing discipline to adolescents. Therefore, the glory and honor that God original bestowed on men-fathers will be given to women-mothers since these men aren’t strong enough and are afraid to keep God’s commandments and be the head (leader-decision maker) of their households by themselves—not needing any leadership help from a woman.
Out of a sub-conscious fear of incompetence, many western men choose to be “gentlemen” unto their women and bestow their glory and honor that is due to them and project it unto a woman, just like Barak did.
The pampering of women is even more prevalent when a woman is pregnant. Pregnant women are beautiful and should receive honor in the form of mercy from the sower of seed. But to the point a man going out of his way to be a “gentleman” in order to please his pregnant woman from doing “her hire” is foolish. The modern pregnant woman has done nothing different or more magnificent than any of the billions of women who have existed before her, over the last six thousand years, starting with the first woman Eve. I don’t know why modern pregnant women expect to get accolades from men for doing some regular shit. They expect the sower of seed to go out of his way and go get them a pickle, a slurpy, a cheeseburger, or whatever in the middle of the night as if he is her subordinate. And the sower of seed supposed to do all this in the respect of being a “gentleman” because his woman is pregnant with his child! A pregnant woman’s mundane thirst or hunger isn’t an emergency that a man must get up in the middle of the night to fulfill. No man or woman in any position or condition is worthy of that type of honor (respect). Unless it’s in the job description of the subordinate and the subordinate is literally receiving wages for getting up in the middle of the night to feed their superior.
David, a man after God’s own heart (cf. Acts 13:22) and a man that God appointed to be King over his people Israel forever (cf. I Chron 28:4) didn’t find himself worthy of such honor (respect). He believed that such honor belong ONLY to God himself.
II Samuel 23:14-17 “And David was then in an hold, and the garrison of the Philistines was then in Bethlehem. And David longed, and said, Oh that one would give me drink of the water of the well of Bethlehem, which is by the gate! And the three mighty men brake through the host of the Philistines, and drew water out of the well of Bethlehem, that was by the gate, and took it, and brought it to David: nevertheless he would not drink thereof, but poured it out unto the LORD. And he said, Be it far from me, O LORD, that I should do this: is not this the blood of the men that went in jeopardy of their lives? therefore he would not drink it. These things did these three mighty men.”
So how awful it is that a regular pregnant woman should find herself worthy of such honor (respect) that belongs ONLY to God, especially when she is the subordinate to the sower of seed.
This was the Doctrine of the Gathering of Israel