Moses A “Gentleman”?
With understanding the two different capacities of service (civil and servile service) as pertaining to conjugal relationships between a man and a woman, you are now better equipped to refute the erroneous doctrine and the twisted scripture Modern Preachers have used or may use to perpetrate that a man is to be a “gentleman” to his woman as a servile servant.
First, I am going to repeat that men indeed are to serve and submit to women in the same aspect as women are to do to men, by looking after the other’s best interest and working on the other’s behalf in all things. But the service and submission that men ought to do unto women is in a far different capacity than what women are biblically obligated to do to men.
For example, I remember a preacher taught to me that Moses was a “gentleman” to seven women, in Moses fighting off shepherds who apparently had always bullied these seven women and made them wait until they had finish drawing water before the seven women were able to draw water. After Moses fought off the bully shepherds on the women’s behalf, he drew water for them and also watered their flocks.
Exodus 2:16-21 “Now the priest of Midian had seven daughters: and they came and drew water, and filled the troughs to water their father’s flock. And the shepherds came and drove them away: but Moses stood up and helped them, and watered their flock. And when they came to Reuel their father, he said, How is it that ye are come so soon to day? And they said, An Egyptian [delivered us] out of the hand of the shepherds, and also drew water enough for us, and watered the flock. And he said unto his daughters, And where is he? why is it that ye have left the man? call him, that he may eat bread. And Moses was content to dwell with the man: and he gave Moses Zipporah his daughter.”
Scripture like the above are a cornerstone for the “gentleman” and “whiteknight” doctrine which comes from Modern Preachers that all men should be “Real Men” by showing the proper respect for women. Like Moses supposedly was to the seven daughters of the Priest of Midian.
Modern Preachers don’t understand (and don’t care to) the two types of services (civil and servile service) in nuptial relationships. They don’t understand because they ignore other scripture and are partial toward women. They have ignored the fact that a woman name Rebekah in scripture did the very same thing for a stranger that Moses did for seven strangers. She drew water on a stranger’s behalf and watered the strangers flock, just out of the kindness of her heart.
Genesis 24:1-4, 10-27 “And Abraham was old, and well stricken in age: and the LORD had blessed Abraham in all things. And Abraham said unto his eldest servant of his house, that ruled over all that he had, Put, I pray thee, thy hand under my thigh: And I will make thee swear by the LORD, the God of heaven, and the God of the earth, that thou shalt not take a wife unto my son of the daughters of the Canaanites, among whom I dwell: But thou shalt go unto my country, and to my kindred, and take a wife unto my son Isaac. And the servant took ten camels of the camels of his master, and departed; for all the goods of his master were in his hand: and he arose, and went to Mesopotamia, unto the city of Nahor. And he made his camels to kneel down without the city by a well of water at the time of the evening, even the time that women go out to draw water. And he said O LORD God of my master Abraham, I pray thee, send me good speed this day, and show kindness unto my master Abraham. Behold, I stand here by the well of water; and the daughters of the men of the city come out to draw water: And let it come to pass, that the damsel to whom I shall say, Let down thy pitcher, I pray thee, that I may drink; and she shall say, Drink, and I will give thy camels drink also: let the same be she that thou hast appointed for thy servant Isaac; and thereby shall I know that thou hast showed kindness unto my master. And it came to pass, before he had done speaking, that, behold, Rebekah came out, who was born to Bethuel, son of Milcah, the wife of Nahor, Abraham’s brother, with her pitcher upon her shoulder. And the damsel was very fair to look upon, a virgin, neither had any man known her: and she went down to the well, and filled her pitcher, and came up. And the servant ran to meet her, and said, Let me, I pray thee, drink a little water of thy pitcher. And she said, Drink, my lord: and she hasted, and let down her pitcher upon her hand, and gave him drink. And when she had done giving him drink, she said, I will draw water for thy camels also, until they have done drinking. And she hasted, and emptied her pitcher into the trough, and ran again unto the well to draw water, and drew for all his camels. And the man wondering at her held his peace, to wit whether the LORD had made his journey prosperous or not. And it came to pass, as the camels had done drinking, that the man took a golden earring of half a shekel weight, and two bracelets for her hands of ten shekels weight of gold; And said, Whose daughter art thou? tell me, I pray thee: is there room in thy father’s house for us to lodge in? And she said unto him, I am the daughter of Bethuel the son of Milcah, which she bare unto Nahor. She said moreover unto him, We have both straw and provender enough, and room to lodge in. And the man bowed down his head, and worshipped the LORD. And he said, Blessed be the LORD God of my master Abraham, who hath not left destitute my master of his mercy and his truth: I being in the way, the LORD led me to the house of my master’s brethren.”
Now should we used the scripture above and Rebekah’s kindness (like Modern Preachers will use and have used Exodus 2:16-21 and Moses’ kindness) as a cornerstone for doctrine that all women should be “Real Women” and show the proper respect for men by being “gentlewomen” to them. God forbid! Our righteousness must exceed the righteousness of the Pharisees as the Lord said:
Matthew 5:20 “For I say unto you, That except your righteousness shall exceed the righteousness of the scribes and Pharisees, ye shall in no case enter into the kingdom of heaven.”
We must exceed the righteousness of the Pharisees because the doctrine of Modern Pharisees (Saturday Preachers), Modern Sadducees (Sunday Preachers), and Modern Herodians (“Religious” secular authorities) all have leaven (hypocrisy—lies and a false balances) in it, especially pertaining to this gentlemen propriety.
Matthew 16:6-8, 12 “Then Jesus said unto them, Take heed and beware of the leaven of the Pharisees and of the Sadducees. And they reasoned among themselves, saying, It is because we have taken no bread. Which when Jesus perceived, he said unto them, O ye of little faith, why reason ye among yourselves, because ye have brought no bread? Then understood they how that he bade them not beware of the leaven of bread, but of the doctrine of the Pharisees and of the Sadducees.”
Mark 8:14-15 “Now the disciples had forgotten to take bread, neither had they in the ship with them more than one loaf. And he charged them, saying, Take heed, beware of the leaven of the Pharisees, and of the leaven of Herod.”
Luke 12:1 “In the mean time, when there were gathered together an innumerable multitude of people, insomuch that they trode one upon another, he began to say unto his disciples first of all, Beware ye of the leaven of the Pharisees, which is hypocrisy.”
What we will do is compare both scriptures to make a sound and balance doctrine instead of being hypocrites like the Modern Pharisees and Modern Sadducees who say that men are the head of the household, while they also say that men are to submit to their women by being gentlemen (servile servants) to them. We also will not be hypocrites in being partial toward men as they are toward women.
Moses was acting as a civil servant toward the seven daughters of the Priest of Midian. While Rebekah was acting as a servile servant to the head servant of Abraham. Moses and Rebekah both did the same thing in drawing water and feeding the flocks of strangers in whom they were serving. But their service was in a different capacity. Moses had to fight off shepherds (plural) on the behalf of the seven women before he drew water and fed their flock. He delivered them out of the hand of the shepherds (as they said—Exodus 2:19), like all great leaders (civil servants) who deliver the people they are over and responsible for.
Exodus 18:5-12 “And Jethro, Moses’ father in law, came with his sons and his wife unto Moses into the wilderness, where he encamped at the mount of God: And he said unto Moses, I thy father in law Jethro am come unto thee, and thy wife, and her two sons with her. And Moses went out to meet his father in law, and did obeisance, and kissed him; and they asked each other of their welfare; and they came into the tent. And Moses told his father in law all that the LORD had done unto Pharaoh and to the Egyptians for Israel’s sake, and all the travail that had come upon them by the way, and how the LORD [delivered] them. And Jethro rejoiced for all the goodness which the LORD had done to Israel, whom he had [delivered] out of the hand of the Egyptians. And Jethro said, Blessed be the LORD, who hath [delivered] you out of the hand of the Egyptians, and out of the hand of Pharaoh, who hath [delivered] the people from under the hand of the Egyptians. Now I know that the LORD is greater than all gods: for in the thing wherein they dealt proudly he was above them. And Jethro, Moses’ father in law, took a burnt offering and sacrifices for God: and Aaron came, and all the elders of Israel, to eat bread with Moses’ father in law before God.”
Judges 9:5-7, 16-21 “And he went unto his father’s house at Ophrah, and slew his brethren the sons of Jerubbaal, being threescore and ten persons, upon one stone: notwithstanding yet Jotham the youngest son of Jerubbaal was left; for he hid himself. And all the men of Shechem gathered together, and all the house of Millo, and went, and made Abimelech king, by the plain of the pillar that was in Shechem. And when they told it to Jotham, he went and stood in the top of mount Gerizim, and lifted up his voice, and cried, and said unto them, Hearken unto me, ye men of Shechem, that God may hearken unto you. Now therefore, if ye have done truly and sincerely, in that ye have made Abimelech king, and if ye have dealt well with Jerubbaal and his house, and have done unto him according to the deserving of his hands; For my father fought for you (Jotham’s father Gideon or also called Jerubbaal fought on Israel’s behalf against their enemies—serving them—like a civil servant should), and adventured his life far, and [delivered] you out of the hand of Midian: And ye are risen up against my father’s house this day, and have slain his sons, threescore and ten persons, upon one stone, and have made Abimelech, the son of his maidservant, king over the men of Shechem, because he is your brother; If ye then have dealt truly and sincerely with Jerubbaal and with his house this day, then rejoice ye in Abimelech, and let him also rejoice in you: But if not, let fire come out from Abimelech, and devour the men of Shechem, and the house of Millo; and let fire come out from the men of Shechem, and from the house of Millo, and devour Abimelech. And Jotham ran away, and fled, and went to Beer, and dwelt there, for fear of Abimelech his brother.”
So Moses delivering the seven women out of the hand of the shepherds and then drawing water and feeding their flocks was more in the capacity of civil servitude, which is provision and security.
Rebekah on the other hand didn’t deliver anyone from anything. When she drew water and fed the flock of the stranger it was more in the capacity of servile servitude, which is nurturing and comfort. Rebekah’s servile service—to a stranger of the opposite sex—was after the pattern of what great followers (servile servants) do for their leaders.
Once again, Moses and Rebekah did the same things (draw water for strangers and their flocks), because they both had the same kind of humble spirit of serving their neighbor. And it sure was a hell of a coincidence that after both Moses and Rebekah served their neighbor (of the opposite sex) in their allotted capacity, according to their gender, that God immediately blessed the both of them with a spouse. Apparently, they both showed God (and man) that they were ready for marriage since they knew exactly how “to serve” the opposite sex. Therefore, God honored both of them with a spouse because of the humility of servitude they both showed toward the opposite sex.
Proverbs 18:12 “Before destruction the heart of man is haughty, and before honour is humility.”
Exodus 2:19-22 “And they said, An Egyptian [delivered] us out of the hand of the shepherds, and also drew water enough for us, and watered the flock. And he said unto his daughters, And where is he? why is it that ye have left the man? call him, that he may eat bread. And Moses was content to dwell with the man: and he gave Moses Zipporah his daughter. And she bare him a son, and he called his name Gershom: for he said, I have been a stranger in a strange land.”
Genesis 24:42-48, 60-67 “And I came this day unto the well, and said, O LORD God of my master Abraham, if now thou do prosper my way which I go: Behold, I stand by the well of water; and it shall come to pass, that when the virgin cometh forth to draw water, and I say to her, Give me, I pray thee, a little water of thy pitcher to drink; And she say to me, Both drink thou, and I will also draw for thy camels (Abraham’s head servant was looking for a woman who knew HOW TO SERVE a man as a servile servant for his master’s son Issac): let the same be the woman whom the LORD hath appointed out for my master’s son. And before I had done speaking in mine heart, behold, Rebekah came forth with her pitcher on her shoulder; and she went down unto the well, and drew water: and I said unto her, Let me drink, I pray thee. And she made haste, and let down her pitcher from her shoulder, and said, Drink, and I will give thy camels drink also: so I drank, and she made the camels drink also. And I asked her, and said, Whose daughter art thou? And she said, the daughter of Bethuel, Nahor’s son, whom Milcah bare unto him: and I put the earring upon her face, and the bracelets upon her hands. And I bowed down my head, and worshipped the LORD, and blessed the LORD God of my master Abraham, which had led me in the right way to take my master’s brother’s daughter unto his son. And they blessed Rebekah, and said unto her, Thou art our sister, be thou the mother of thousands of millions, and let thy seed possess the gate of those which hate them. And Rebekah arose, and her damsels, and they rode upon the camels, and followed the man: and the servant took Rebekah, and went his way. And Isaac came from the way of the well Lahairoi; for he dwelt in the south country. And Isaac went out to meditate in the field at the eventide: and he lifted up his eyes, and saw, and, behold, the camels were coming. And Rebekah lifted up her eyes, and when she saw Isaac, she lighted off the camel. For she had said unto the servant, What man is this that walketh in the field to meet us? And the servant had said, It is my master: therefore she took a vail, and covered herself. And the servant told Isaac all things that he had done. And Isaac brought her into his mother Sarah’s tent, and took Rebekah, and she became his wife; and he loved her (Of-course Issac loved Rebekah because Rebekah knew HOW TO SERVE the opposite sex): and Isaac was comforted after his mother’s death.”
From the example of Moses’ and Rebekah’s service to strangers of the opposite sex, we can figure out people’s character and marriage potential or lack thereof. That the way someone generally treats strangers of the opposite sex, good or bad, serving them or abusing them, is a great indicator on how they will inevitably treat their spouse. Keep all that in mind when you are looking for a spouse.
Understand brothers that if your woman doesn’t adequately serve you in the capacity of a servile servant, then that means she isn’t adequately serving your children as a civil servant, because she doesn’t know how to serve or she refuses to serve. ONLY a good wife/girlfriend will make a good mother because she knows how to serve. And ONLY a good husband/boyfriend will make a good father because he knows how to serve.
Lack of serving the opposite sex is why there are so many single mother households in America, single women period, and women in their 30’s and 40’s who have never been married. All because these women don’t know how to serve a man. They are so busy competing with men to be “the man” (in charge) or trying to be served by gentlemen, that they never learned how to serve a man to get a good male leader to marry them.
Remember Rebekah’s future father-in-law’s servant found her on the behalf of her future husband because he saw that she knew how to serve a man when she [willingly] drew water for him and his flock. This dynamic is why it is written that when a man finds a wife he finds a “good thing.”
Proverbs 18:22 “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.”
The “good thing” in which a man finds when he finds a wife isn’t the wife herself per se. The “good thing” in which a man finds when he finds him a wife is that he finds a wife who knows how TO SERVE! The Service (not the sexual gratification, that is icing on the cake) the wife provides is what is “good,” not necessarily the wife in herself.
Titus 2:3-5 “The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of [good things]; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home (serve at home),[good], obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.”
Besides, Ahab found him a wife in Jezebel, now was that a good thing?
I Kings 16:30-31 “And Ahab the son of Omri did evil in the sight of the LORD above all that were before him. And it came to pass, as if it had been a light thing for him to walk in the sins of Jeroboam the son of Nebat, that he took to wife Jezebel the daughter of Ethbaal king of the Zidonians, and went and served Baal, and worshipped him.”
I Kings 21:25 “But there was none like unto Ahab, which did sell himself to work wickedness in the sight of the LORD, whom Jezebel his wife stirred up.”
Of-course Jezebel wasn’t a good thing although Ahab found her to be his wife. Likewise, any woman that doesn’t know how to serve or refuses to serve isn’t a good thing for that man although he found her to be his wife.
Look at the example of Abigail who was found of David to be his wife. David was a man after God’s own heart (means he thought like God) and the greatest king to ever live, so you can’t get a better example of good male leader. This high-brow man (David) married Abigail because he saw that she knew how to serve.
Abigail was beautiful and wise but she knew that HER WORKS ONLY were going to give her praise (appreciation) and not her beauty, because beauty is vanity.
Proverbs 31:29-31 “Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all. Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.”
That’s why when David sent men “to hire” Abigail to be his wife (after God killed Nabal), Abigail accepted “the job offer” and the job requirements which was TO SERVE! Cause of the job requirements of being a wife is TO SERVE is why Abigail said unto David’s men “Behold, let thine handmaid be a servant to wash the feet of the servants of my lord.”
I Samuel 25:40-42 “And when the servants of David were come to Abigail to Carmel, they spake unto her, saying, David sent us unto thee, to take thee to him [to wife]. And she arose, and bowed herself on her face to the earth, and said, Behold, let thine handmaid be [a servant] to wash the feet of the servants of my lord. And Abigail hasted, and arose and rode upon an ass, with five damsels of hers that went after her; and she went after the messengers of David, and became [his wife].”
Note that Abigail above didn’t say “let David’s servants serve her,” instead Abigail said “Behold, let thine handmaid be a servant to wash the feet of the servants of my lord (her husband).” Not only did Abigail serve David, but she served David’s servants (officers) as well. This woman knew HOW TO SERVE! In whatever capacity, as a servile servant or a civil servant. No wonder the Bible recorded Abigail as being a woman of good understanding (cf. I Sam 25:3). ALL WHO HAVE GOOD UNDERSTANDING KNOW HOW TO SERVE!
Also take note that Abigail didn’t dare say anything tantamount to “let my lord David serve me as a gentleman.” Therefore, no doors were going to be opened for Abigail, no chairs were going to pull out for Abigail, she wasn’t going to be the first one to eat, and definitely no jacket over a poodle of water was going to be set for her to walk on, although she was a beautiful and wise woman. Abigail’s wisdom and beauty didn’t exempt her from serving as a servile servant as God ordained women to do unto their husbands.
This was the Doctrine of the Gathering of Israel