It’s written that everyone shall [honor and fear] their father and their mother:
Exodus 20:12 “Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.”
Leviticus 19:1, 3 “And the LORD spake unto Moses, saying, Ye shall fear every man his mother, and his father, and keep my sabbaths: I am the LORD your God.”
It’s also written that everyone shall [honor and fear] their King:
Proverbs 24:21 “My son, fear thou the LORD and the king: and meddle not with them that are given to change.”
I Peter 2:13-14, 17 “Submit yourselves to every ordinance of man for the Lord’s sake: whether it be to the king, as supreme; Or unto governors, as unto them that are sent by him for the punishment of evildoers, and for the praise of them that do well. Honour all men. Love the brotherhood. Fear God. Honour the king.”
The King who is to be honored and feared—according to the scriptures—is some father’s son, and some mother’s son. So, with that said, does it mean that a King’s father and a King’s mother must honor and fear the King, although the King is their child—YES!
King Solomon’s mother (Bathsheba) expected her son Solomon—her King and the King of Israel—to honor any request that she would make just because she was his mother. Even though Solomon said he would honor any of her requests because she was his mother, yet, the King’s mother made a request that was foolish to the King. SO THE KING SPOKE RUDELY TO HIS MOTHER AND CHECKED HIS OWN MOTHER FOR HER [FOLLY]. That unbeknownst to the King’s mother, she was asking the King to give up his throne to his elder brother (Adonijah), by requesting that the King’s elder brother be able to marry David’s concubine.
I Kings 2:13-25 “And Adonijah the son of Haggith came to Bathsheba the mother of Solomon. And she said, Comest thou peaceably? And he said, Peaceably. He said moreover, I have somewhat to say unto thee. And she said, Say on. And he said, Thou knowest that the kingdom was mine, and that all Israel set their faces on me, that I should reign: howbeit the kingdom is turned about, and is become my brother’s: for it was his from the LORD. And now I ask one petition of thee, deny me not. And she said unto him, Say on. And he said, Speak, I pray thee, unto Solomon the king, (for he will not say thee nay,) that he give me Abishag the Shunammite to wife. And Bathsheba said, Well; I will speak for thee unto [the king]. Bathsheba therefore went unto king Solomon, to speak unto him for Adonijah. And the king rose up to meet her, and bowed himself unto her, and sat down on his throne, and caused a seat to be set for the king’s mother; and she sat on his right hand. Then she said, I desire one small petition of thee; I pray thee, say me not nay. And the king said unto her, Ask on, my mother: for I will not say thee nay. And she said, Let Abishag the Shunammite be given to Adonijah thy brother to wife. And [king Solomon] answered and said unto [his mother], And why dost thou ask Abishag the Shunammite for Adonijah? ask for him the kingdom also; for he is mine elder brother; even for him, and for Abiathar the priest, and for Joab the son of Zeruiah. Then king Solomon sware by the LORD, saying, God do so to me, and more also, if Adonijah have not spoken this word against his own life. Now therefore, as the LORD liveth, which hath established me, and set me on the throne of David my father, and who hath made me an house, as he promised, Adonijah shall be put to death this day. And king Solomon sent by the hand of Benaiah the son of Jehoiada; and he fell upon him that he died.”
The King’s mother did a lot of hard work to get her son on the throne of Israel, and she saved his and her life from Solomon’s elder brother (cf. I Kings 1:11-53). But once Solomon got on the Throne of Israel, he wasn’t just Bathsheba’s child anymore, HE WAS ALSO [HER KING] AS WELL. And as her King, the King’s mother had to fear & honor her King (who just happened to be her child) accordingly. Solomon being King, put him in the position of being in charge over the King’s mother, which gave him the authority to reprimand his own mother for her folly. The King’s mother couldn’t do anything but HONOR & FEAR HER SON as her King, and say nothing else as her son, the King, reprimanded her for her folly of asking him to give up the Kingdom that she so much help him obtain.
King Jesus’ mother (Mary) expected her son—the future King of Israel (cf. John 1:49 & John 12:12-13)—to honor her request to perform a miracle before his time, just because she was his mother. But note how Jesus, the [sinless] savior, spoke so rudely to his own mother.
John 2:1-11 “And the third day there was a marriage in Cana of Galilee; and the mother of Jesus was there: And both Jesus was called, and his disciples, to the marriage. And when they wanted wine, the mother of Jesus saith unto him, They have no wine. Jesus saith unto her, [Woman], what have I to do with thee? mine hour is not yet come. His mother saith unto the servants, Whatsoever he saith unto you, do it. And there were set there six waterpots of stone, after the manner of the purifying of the Jews, containing two or three firkins apiece. Jesus saith unto them, Fill the waterpots with water. And they filled them up to the brim. And he saith unto them, Draw out now, and bear unto the governor of the feast. And they bare it. When the ruler of the feast had tasted the water that was made wine, and knew not whence it was: (but the servants which drew the water knew;) the governor of the feast called the bridegroom, And saith unto him, Every man at the beginning doth set forth good wine; and when men have well drunk, then that which is worse: but thou hast kept the good wine until now. This beginning of miracles did Jesus in Cana of Galilee, and manifested forth his glory; and his disciples believed on him.”
For a moment, Jesus’ mother offended him, in the way she had approached him and asked him to do something that he wasn’t quite ready to do. Notice when Jesus mother offended him, he said [“WOMAN”] and not “mother,” “mommy,” “ma,” or “mommie.” Jesus said [“WOMAN”] to his mother (like a father would say [“BOY”] to his son who in some way is questioning his authority) as a backhanded epithet to put his own mother in her place—A WOMAN! A woman who wasn’t to give an adult man a commandment even in an indirect way. Though the adult man that Jesus’ mother was giving an indirect commandment to was her son. But this son, of this mother (Mary), was her King, her Lord, and her Savior. As she herself attested in the book of Luke.
Luke 1:30-33, 46-56 “And the angel said unto her, Fear not, Mary: for thou hast found favour with God. And, behold, thou shalt conceive in thy womb, and bring forth a son, and shalt call his name JESUS. He shall be great, and shall be called the Son of the Highest: and the Lord God shall give unto him the throne of his father David: And he shall reign over the house of Jacob for ever; and of his kingdom there shall be no end. And Mary said, My soul doth magnify the Lord, And my spirit hath rejoiced in God my Saviour. For he hath regarded the low estate of his handmaiden: for, behold, from henceforth all generations shall call me blessed. For he that is mighty hath done to me great things; and holy is his name. And his mercy is on them that fear him from generation to generation. He hath showed strength with his arm; he hath scattered the proud in the imagination of their hearts. He hath put down the mighty from their seats, and exalted them of low degree. He hath filled the hungry with good things; and the rich he hath sent empty away. He hath helped his servant Israel, in remembrance of his mercy; As he spake to our fathers, to Abraham, and to his seed for ever. And Mary abode with her about three months, and returned to her own house.”
Matthew 1:18-23 “Now the birth of Jesus Christ was on this wise: When as his mother Mary was espoused to Joseph, before they came together, she was found with child of the Holy Ghost. Then Joseph her husband, being a just man, and not willing to make her a public example, was minded to put her away privily. But while he thought on these things, behold, the angel of the LORD appeared unto him in a dream, saying, Joseph, thou son of David, fear not to take unto thee Mary thy wife: for that which is conceived in her is of the Holy Ghost. And she shall bring forth a son, and thou shalt call his name JESUS: for he shall [save] his people from their sins. Now all this was done, that it might be fulfilled which was spoken of the Lord by the prophet, saying, Behold, a virgin shall be with child, and shall bring forth a son, and they shall call his name Emmanuel, which being interpreted is, [God with us].”
Jesus’ mother Mary risked her engagement to Joseph and her own life from being stone to death to carry Jesus in her womb. Mary knew it looked like to Joseph and everyone else that she got pregnant by an adulterous affair, instead of being with child of “the holy ghost.” That is why she kept quiet to Joseph about the theophany happening to her (who would believe it) that look like adultery. All the way to the point of her belly showing in her pregnancy of “the holy ghost” (cf. Matthew 1:18-21). Nonetheless, when this child who she risked her life for was grown, this child was to be feared and honored by his mother Mary for being her King, her Lord, and her Savior. Hence, that adult child Jesus checked his own mother accordingly (“Woman”), for her brief lack of Fear and Honor for her King, her Lord, and her Savior—who she risked her life for mind you.
Notwithstanding, as generally the case when a man checks a [“WOMAN”] who he loves for given him an indirect commandment, and she accepts being checked for her folly, he obliges to her wishes if it’s nothing to arduous for him to do. Though he might have been offended by her approach or previously did not want to do it for some reason. So, did Jesus do to the [“WOMAN”] in him turning water into wine at her request.
Also, what needs to be pointed out about Jesus dealing with his mother Mary, was that he wasn’t in charge over his mother for the reasons of him being her King, her Lord, and her Savior, but he was also in charge over his mother for the reason of him being an adult man. Thus, as Jesus was dying on the cross—still thinking to care for his mother at his death, like his mother was thinking about caring for him in her womb at the risk of death (beautiful mother and son love), he gave charged of his mother over to John, one of his disciples.
John 19:25-27 “Now there stood by the cross of Jesus his mother, and his mother’s sister, Mary the wife of Cleophas, and Mary Magdalene. When Jesus therefore saw his mother, and the disciple standing by, whom he loved (John), he saith unto his mother, [Woman], behold thy son! Then saith he to the disciple, Behold thy mother! And from that hour that disciple took her unto his own home.”
John wasn’t Mary’s son, let alone her King, her Lord, and her Savior. But what put John in the position to be in charge over another man’s mother was that John was an ADULT MAN—THE HEAD OF WOMAN! It’s all that simple.
If King David had to give honor to his son Jesus according to the flesh:
Romans 1:1-4 “Paul, a servant of Jesus Christ, called to be an apostle, separated unto the gospel of God, (Which he had promised afore by his prophets in the holy scriptures,) Concerning his Son Jesus Christ our Lord, which was made of the seed of David according to the flesh; And declared to be the Son of God with power, according to the spirit of holiness, by the resurrection from the dead.”
Cause his son Jesus the Christ (the Messiah) was also his Lord. Than you know, Mary Jesus’ mother, wasn’t exempt from giving her son Jesus the Christ honor. Jesus pointed this out to some Pharisees in his day that David in the spirit called the Christ—which was Jesus (cf. John 4:25-26)—his Lord and not his son.
Matthew 22:41-46 “While the Pharisees were gathered together, Jesus asked them, Saying, What think ye of Christ? whose son is he? They say unto him, The son of David. He saith unto them, How then doth David in spirit call him Lord, saying, The LORD said unto my Lord, Sit thou on my right hand, till I make thine enemies thy footstool (cf. Psalm 110:1)? If David then call him Lord, how is he his son? And no man was able to answer him a word, neither durst any man from that day forth ask him any more questions.”
Though the Christ was David’s son according to the flesh (cf. Romans 1:3), the Christ wasn’t David’s “son” according to rank and authority. The Christ was David’s Lord according to rank and authority (cf. Psalm 110:1), although the Christ was David’s son according to the flesh. That fact was what Jesus was trying to teach the Pharisees in the above scripture, who looked at the Christ like he was David’s son according to the flesh. In other words, the Pharisees mistakenly looked at the Christ as if he was under David in rank and authority, because the Christ was David’s son according to the flesh.
Jesus teaching the Pharisees that a son according to the flesh can also be a Lord to his parent according to rank and authority, underscores that it is just as urgent for a parent to Honor their child who has more rank and authority than them (i.e. “WOMAN,” –John 2:4), as it is urgent for a child to Honor their parent who is their origin of life. And to honor their parent who [had] or have more rank and authority than them when they were or are just a child.
Luke 2:41-52 “Now his parents went to Jerusalem every year at the feast of the passover. And when he was twelve years old (just a child), they went up to Jerusalem after the custom of the feast. And when they had fulfilled the days, as they returned, the child Jesus tarried behind in Jerusalem; and Joseph and his mother knew not of it. But they, supposing him to have been in the company, went a day’s journey; and they sought him among their kinsfolk and acquaintance. And when they found him not, they turned back again to Jerusalem, seeking him. And it came to pass, that after three days they found him in the temple, sitting in the midst of the doctors, both hearing them, and asking them questions. And all that heard him were astonished at his understanding and answers. And when they saw him, they were amazed: and his mother said unto him, Son, why hast thou thus dealt with us? behold, thy father and I have sought thee sorrowing. And he said unto them, How is it that ye sought me? wist ye not that I must be about my Father’s business? And they understood not the saying which he spake unto them. And he went down with them, and came to Nazareth, and was subject unto them (being just a child): but [his mother] kept all these sayings in her heart. And Jesus increased in wisdom and stature, and in favour with God and man.”
King Asa seems to be the antithesis of some things that Paul wrote in the New Testament concerning one’s treatment of their parents. For one, Paul wrote that people with reprobated minds are haters of God, from doing such things as being disobedient to parents. And that people who are disobedient to their parents are worthy of death.
Romans 1:28-32 “And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient; Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers, Backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents, Without understanding, covenantbreakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful: Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them.”
Paul’s written above is in accordance with God’s commandments, that recalcitrant children are worthy of death.
Deuteronomy 21:18-21 “If a man have a stubborn and rebellious son, which will not obey the voice of his father, or the voice of his mother, and that, when they have chastened him, will not hearken unto them: Then shall his father and his mother lay hold on him, and bring him out unto the elders of his city, and unto the gate of his place; And they shall say unto the elders of his city, This our son is stubborn and rebellious, he will not obey our voice; he is a glutton, and a drunkard. And all the men of his city shall stone him with stones, that he die: so shalt thou put evil away from among you; and all Israel shall hear, and fear.”
However, what Paul wrote in the Book of Romans and God’s commandments against recalcitrant young children are concerning children under the rank and authority of their parents. They both are not concerning children who have higher rank and authority than their parents.
King Asa “hated” his own mother because he was a Lover of God:
Luke 14:26-27 “And there went great multitudes with him: and he turned, and said unto them, If any man come to me, and [hate] not his father, [and mother], and wife, and children, and brethren, and sisters, yea, and his own life also, he cannot be my disciple. And whosoever doth not bear his cross, and come after me, cannot be my disciple.”
King Asa removed his mother (really his “grandmother” cf. II Chron 11:21-22, no Hebrew word could be Anglicized into grandmother) from being queen because she was an idolater.
I Kings 15:9-13 “And in the twentieth year of Jeroboam king of Israel reigned Asa over Judah. And forty and one years reigned he in Jerusalem. And his mother’s name was Maachah, the daughter of Abishalom. And Asa did that which was right in the eyes of the LORD, as did David his father. And he took away the sodomites out of the land, and removed all the idols that his fathers had made. And also Maachah [his mother], even her he removed from being queen, because she had made an idol in a grove; and Asa destroyed her idol, and burnt it by the brook Kidron.”
King Asa’s mother most likely thought that she could be an idolater, offend the King, and receive no repercussion from the King, based on the fact she was the King’s mother. She was wrong!
Remember again that Jesus said in the book of Luke that if one doesn’t “hate” (disobey or forsake, for God’s sake) their father or their mother, then they can’t be his disciple.
Luke 14:26-27 “And there went great multitudes with him: and he turned, and said unto them, If any man come to me, and [hate] not his father, [and mother], and wife, and children, and brethren, and sisters, yea, and his own life also, he cannot be my disciple.”
How can someone be worthy of death for “hating” their parents according to the Book of Romans (Rom 1:28-32), but at the same time be worthy to be Jesus’ disciple and teach eternal life according to the above scripture. Either we have a contradiction here, or there is an urgent necessity of one “hating” their parents for God’s sake if they must. The latter is true, and King Asa did according to the latter. Thus, King Asa was a worthy disciple of God’s, because when it was necessary, he “hated” his own mother and removed her from being queen—for God’s sake. Cause his mother was an idolater who was not to influence the people of Judah under her authority to commit idolatry with her. This thing that King Asa did in removing his idolatrous mother from being queen, was right in the eyes of the Lord (cf. I Kings 15:11).
Notwithstanding, what is right in the eyes of the Lord is also for one to obey their parents in the Lord.
Ephesians 6:1-3 “Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.”
And that is the underlining meaning, that children obey their parents in the Lord; not obey their parents in idolatry.
In the Lord, as we read the words of the Lord Jesus, would be a mother subjecting herself to the authority of her adult male son (John 2:1-11), or adult males period (cf. John 19:25-27). An adult male son obeying his mother is not in the Lord. That is in idolatry. Adult male sons can obey their mother’s good counsel (Proverbs 31:1-9), or any other woman’s good counsel. But far as adult males obeying their mother as a superior over them, or any other woman (who isn’t a secular authority or boss/supervisor,) as a superior over them, that will be in idolatry, and not in the Lord.
As a wife is an idolater because she doesn’t believe or trust in God for not submitting herself to the authority of her husband (cf. I Peter 3:5), so is a mother an idolater, when she doesn’t submit herself to the authority of her adult male son. Such an idolatrous mother who doesn’t submit herself to the authority of her adult male son, might need to be removed from being “the queen” of his life, because of her idolatry. It’s very offensive for a mother to treat her adult male son like he is still a boy under her authority. Again, such an idolatrous mother might have to be removed from being “the queen” of his life because she is an idolater, who has offended her adult male son with her idolatry. Of treating him—an adult male who acts like one—like a child under her authority. Just like King Asa removed his mother from being queen because she offended him with her idolatry, which was right in the eyes of the Lord: So will it be right in the eyes of the Lord for an adult male son to remove an idolatrous mother from being “the queen” of his life, for her idolatry of treating him like a child who is under her authority.
An adult male being treated like a child by anyone including his mother isn’t a good look. It makes him look unclean as a man of God, and as a man (head of woman) period. If a man is a chief man, meaning he is a ruler over other men in a King or High Priest position, then he definitely can’t be unclean and defile himself (look like a child) for his mother or for his father.
Leviticus 21:10-12 “And he that is the high priest among his brethren, upon whose head the anointing oil was poured, and that is consecrated to put on the garments, shall not uncover his head, nor rend his clothes; Neither shall he go in to any dead body, nor defile himself for his father, [or for his mother]; Neither shall he go out of the sanctuary, nor profane the sanctuary of his God; for the crown of the anointing oil of his God is upon him: I am the LORD.”
Idolatry is unclean in itself. By which someone must receive the spirit (word) of God to cleanse themselves thereby, and thereafter they will have a new “heart”—which is to say, a new way of thinking.
Ezekiel 36:22-28 “Therefore say unto the house of Israel, thus saith the Lord GOD; I do not this for your sakes, O house of Israel, but for mine holy name’s sake, which ye have profaned among the heathen, whither ye went. And I will sanctify my great name, which was profaned among the heathen, which ye have profaned in the midst of them; and the heathen shall know that I am the LORD, saith the Lord GOD, when I shall be sanctified in you before their eyes. For I will take you from among the heathen, and gather you out of all countries, and will bring you into your own land. Then will I sprinkle clean water (the Word of God—cf. John 15:3 & Eph 5:25-26) upon you, and ye shall be clean: from all your [filthiness], and from all your [idols], will I cleanse you. A new heart also will I give you, and a new spirit will I put within you: and I will take away the stony heart out of your flesh, and I will give you an heart of flesh. And I will put my spirit within you, and cause you to walk in my statutes, and ye shall keep my judgments, and do them. And ye shall dwell in the land that I gave to your fathers; and ye shall be my people, and I will be your God.”
I hope the way I have broken down (by the scriptures) how an adult male son is in authority over his mother in the Lord, and how his mother being in authority over him is in idolatry, give mothers and adult male sons reading this post a new way of thinking. That they would cleanse themselves of this idolatry of mothers ruling over their adult male sons.
It doesn’t matter that mothers carry their sons in their womb for nine months, and go through hard labor pains for hours to give birth to their sons. It doesn’t matter if mothers risk their lives for their sons (like Mary for Jesus). Or even save their son’s life and help put them in a great position (like Bathsheba for Solomon). Still their sons (even if they are not going to be Kings and High Priest) are going to be adult males one day. Since these sons will be men, they will be the head of women—including their mother. Therefore, mothers need to [honor] their adult male children as their leaders and not dishonor them, by treating them like they are just their babies and their subjects. This goes also for adult female children who are co-regent with their mother in womanhood. The mother isn’t to treat her adult daughters like babies, but, [honor] her adult female children for what they intrinsically are—Adults!
It is too late in the day for all this veneration of female mothers on top of all this female appeasement in general, when you have all these single mothers abusing their children in slick ways that add insult to the injury of these children being fatherless (this blog will have a later post on this).
Mommy or Big Ma is not first (in authority), the adult male is first (in authority). If Mommy or Big Ma was first, God would’ve brought Mommy or Big Ma out of the ground first in the Garden of Eden, as a precedent to teach us that Mommy or Big Ma is first. But of-course, we know that the Lord brought up the adult male up first, and you will learn in the next post that the adult male is even the first mother. Therefore, our precedent from God’s creation is that adult males are first (in authority), since they were the first created of humankind.
This was the Doctrine of the Gathering of Israel